You've been living together for months, maybe years. You know their habits, their favorite coffee, the way they sleep. And yet... do you really know what drives them? What they dream of doing before turning 40? What scares them the most?

A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships showed that couples who regularly ask open-ended questions to their partner have a significantly higher level of relationship satisfaction than those who stick to surface-level exchanges.

Here are 50 carefully selected questions, organized by category, to rekindle the connection with your partner — whether you've been together for 6 months or 20 years.

How to use these questions

  • One question per dinner — make it an evening ritual
  • In the car during a long road trip
  • As a game: one picks a number, the other answers
  • By text in the middle of the day to build anticipation

The Adeux app actually offers a daily question automatically sent to your partner — a way to maintain this ritual even during the busiest weeks.

Fun and lighthearted questions

  1. If you could eat only one dish for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  2. What superpower would you choose and how would you abuse it?
  3. Which celebrity do you think you resemble the most?
  4. If your life were a movie, what genre would it be — and who would play your role?
  5. What completely useless talent would you love to have?
  6. If you had to live in a different era, which one would you pick?
  7. What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done in public?
  8. If you won 10 million tomorrow, what would you do first?
  9. Which animal do you resemble the most and why?
  10. What's the song you listen to on repeat but don't really own up to?

Questions about the past and memories

  1. What is your strongest childhood memory?
  2. Who was the teacher who had the biggest impact on you?
  3. What past mistake taught you the most about yourself?
  4. What were you like at 16? Did you like yourself?
  5. What moment in your life would you relive exactly the same way?
  6. Is there something you regret not saying to someone?
  7. What was your childhood dream — and where does it stand today?
  8. What was the hardest period of your life? How did you get through it?
  9. What was your favorite movie or book at age 10?
  10. What are you most proud of in your life so far?

Questions about values and worldview

  1. What does success truly mean to you?
  2. What value do you consider the most important in a relationship?
  3. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
  4. Do you believe in destiny? Why?
  5. What would you do differently if you knew you couldn't fail?
  6. How would you define a life well lived?
  7. What is the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?
  8. What do you think people see when they look at you — and does it match who you really are?
  9. Is there a belief you've radically changed over the course of your life?
  10. What would you want people to say about you at your funeral?

Questions about your dreams and future

  1. What place in the world do you dream of visiting at least once?
  2. In 10 years, how do you picture your ideal life?
  3. Is there something you'd like to learn that you haven't had time for yet?
  4. If you could change careers overnight with no financial constraints, what would you do?
  5. What project excites you the most for our shared future?
  6. Is there a physical or personal challenge you'd like to take on?
  7. How would you like to celebrate our anniversary in 5 years?
  8. What would you like us to accomplish together this year?
  9. If we had to move to another city or country, where would it be?
  10. What's your biggest dream that you've never dared to say out loud?

Questions about your relationship

  1. What moment in our relationship are you most proud of?
  2. How can I better support you during tough times?
  3. What have I done recently that touched you or made you feel good?
  4. Is there something we've never done together that you'd like to try?
  5. How would you know our relationship is truly doing well?
  6. What do you appreciate the most about how we are together day to day?
  7. Is there a topic you wish we talked about more often?
  8. What memory of us still makes you smile?
  9. How could I surprise you in a way that would truly suit you?
  10. What makes you want to keep building with me?

"True intimacy begins when we stop assuming what the other person thinks, and start asking them."

A few tips to make these conversations work

Create a safe space

These questions only have value if both partners feel free to answer honestly, without fear of judgment.

Don't force it

If a question touches on something sensitive, respect their pace. The goal isn't an interrogation — it's connection.

Answer too

Vulnerability is contagious in the best way. Share your own answers as well.

Save the answers that move you

In the Adeux app, you can save your daily question answers and revisit them later — a true journal of your relationship in the making.

Conclusion: curiosity as an act of love

Staying curious about the other person is perhaps the purest form of love there is. It's telling someone: "I'm still interested in you. I want to keep discovering you."

Pick a question. Ask it tonight. And be ready to be surprised by the person in front of you.